Youthful Life: X

Truth - Sometimes the biggest obstacle standing in our way can be none other than us ourselves. What if happiness is a conscious choice to be positive, show gratitude, and demonstrate kindness to others? Regardless of whatever circumstances we might find ourselves in there still remains an element of choice in how we conduct ourselves. It can mean all the difference. The only thing we can ever control in life is ourselves. If we stand in our own way, the only one we have to blame is us. This is sabotage.   "I think that sometimes love gets in the way of itself - you know, love interrupts itself. We want things so much that we sabotage them." Jack White I have a confession to make. I am someone who self-sabotages. There, I said it. What's even worst about is that I am self-aware and know why I do it when I'm doing it, and yet I still continue to purposefully demolish potential relationships before they have a chance to solidify. I use humor as a defense mechani...

The 20s are all about questioning what you believe to be true. Life, especially in college, isn't always black or white. There aren't always right or wrong answers. People aren't inherently good or bad. It's a whole lot of ambiguity, subjectivity and just plain instinct. One of the hardest things to do can be whether or not to trust someone. What criteria do you have to have for you to be trustworthy or do we give it away and rescind when they have deemed themselves unworthy? We each do it differently but we all do it, we process the trust. College has been one of the most formative experiences in my life (I'm only 20 so that's not saying much but still). It challenged me to see the world in a brand new way, notice injustices and finally be empowered to do or say something about it. College also has given me the most severe case of trust issues (like Drake song worthy level). It made me question everything I knew about the way the world worked, all my frie...

The 20s are all about having faith in yourself and others. Belief is one of the most powerful motivators known to man. Whether you're religious/spiritual or not, we all acknowledge that some things are true. There are times when we have to let go, take a back seat, and let things work out. We may not see the big picture but we play our part and things often fall into place. When we step back and take a look, the cartography is more amazing than we ever could have imagined. Are you ready to trust the process?  The phrase trust the process may hands down be the saying makes the most annoyed for a variety of reasons. You know that one of the things I have the most difficulty with is following others when I'm not in control, and also trusting people (but those #trustissues tho). Nonetheless I'm expected to fall in lone, march on, and carry out orders. Well the difference is this isn't Call of Duty. I'm not a soldier obeying orders. I'm not unaware of the great...

The 20s are all about never settling for less than you deserve. College is a time when people get out there and hit the dating scene like they've been waiting their entire lives for it. Yeah, the dating pool may be massive and that may mean more people to choose from but that doesn't mean you'll find what you're looking for. Some people come across what they've been searching for, while others are not so lucky. Your day will come, in due time. This is what a boy wants. Somehow I've come to live by this unspoken ideal man law. It's both a gift and a curse at the same damn time. Let me explain. I'm the guy that everyone loves to really like, cute (not hot), empathetic, compassionate, intelligent, put-together, and funny. I always get you would be the perfect boyfriend, why are you single, or why haven't you been spoken for. My favorite is any girl would be a fool to pass up on you. Well damn, if I'm this big catch then what does no one ever act...

Being a teenager is all about trust. That includes both trusting yourself that you know what you're doing, or to do what's right for you and to trust other people. Both parts are easier said than done. It's  tough world out here and bad experiences leave a bitter after taste and the appetite for trust is ruined. How do you come back from that? How do you learn to trust people? How do you not let yourself get hurt again? I'll be the first to say I've got ... trust issues. Trust - not something to be played around or given out so easily. It takes time to build and can quickly be lost. It's a hit or miss kind of thing. You're either trustworthy or you're not and once you've proven yourself to be the latter, it's kind of a done deal. It may sound dramatic, like Degrassi teenage melodrama (but actually though, Degrassi takes high school and does it justice) but it's the cold-hearted trust. As teens we're kind of a fragile/volatile breed. F...